Stop Giving Your Heart Away

Sounds like a song, doesn’t it? Interestingly, it’s one of the most important lessons I’ve experienced recently. Turns out that many of us, including me, have given pieces of our heart away to those we love or have loved. Not surprisingly, those we love/loved have also given pieces of their hearts in return.

But there's a difference between sharing freely from one's whole heart, where giving comes from a place of love, adoration, and respect versus giving pieces of our hearts away.

When we give pieces or our heart away, we lose an intrinsic part of ourselves that was created over lifetimes of experiences and learnings. With a key piece of the energetic heart missing, our energy system shifts to accommodate, and doing so can change what we remember, how we manifest what we desire, and how we love.

Meanwhile, the loved one we gave our heart to gains access to that special part that only we can decode as this missing piece holds our feelings, experiences, joys, and even traumas that are uniquely part of our life experience.

Hence, giving our hearts away is not an ideal situation. Sharing deeply from the heart is.

To be frank, I thought giving our heart away was just a phrase we use, metaphorically speaking. But in reality, everything we say, think, and do is an act of creation. If you say you'll give your heart away, or pieces of it to someone you love, your heart essence literally responds to your command in kind.

Giving our hearts away is so common, there are dozens of hit songs that speak to this very issue. You’re probably thinking of one or two now as you read this. One popular song that comes to mind is Janis Joplin's: Piece of My Heart. You may recall the lyrics: "Take another piece of my heart now, baby."

Who would have imagined that giving our hearts away metaphorically would create such interesting energy dynamics for the giver and the receiver? This is one of the situations where truth appears stranger than fiction.

Whole heartedness is key

In the world of energy, when you give pieces of your heart away, you deprive yourself of a whole heart from which to love from and be loved by, and to manifest your heart's desires.

You see, every cell in your physical and spiritual heart (your heart essence) carries love frequencies, symbols, and codes that reflect your deepest hopes, wishes, dreams, and desires as well as the wherewithal to create them. Equally important, your heart essence also carries memories of every life experience you have ever had, as well as the wisdom and intelligence gleaned to support your well-being.

When you give your heart away or pieces of it, you leave a hole in your energy field. When this happens, negative energies can take up residence, creating blocks that limit choice until they are released.

Additionally, if you've taken or have a piece of someone's heart with you, there's a good chance you've hindered your own ability to manifest what you want in life. If someone is deceased or the relationship ended poorly, generally speaking the frequencies are out of kilter and could create a block, limiting what gets in and out. It feels like putting a band-aid over skin that has no wound.

Moreover, with lower frequencies residing in your field, you could draw experiences to you that you don't want -- experiences that occurred due to their life story -- simply because you possess their energy. That's why it's always best to release what's not yours.

I recently realized I had pieces of my parents' hearts and returned them. They've been gone for quite some time now. When I returned the energies, a deep, heavy sadness lifted from my heart that wasn't mine. Immediately, I was able to breathe easier, and I could feel my heart lighten. It was quite surprising, even for me. I literally could see and feel the energy lift from my heart as I sent it back to them. Shortly thereafter, I heard "Thank you." I also apologized for holding on to it as everyone needs a whole heart. Wherever they may be.

Fascinating world of soul / aspect retrieval

It's also important to note here that another good reason for not giving one's heart away or pieces of it is because everyone jettisons parts and pieces of themselves that result from unsavory experiences, rejection, hurt, shame, and loss. This means there are lot of your "aspects" floating around in the ethers.

Aspects are key pieces of yourself that you have disowned for one reason or another: overload, overwhelmed, misunderstandings, hate, anger, and on. To bring you back into wholeness, I conduct soul retrieval. This means I call back your aspects, clean them up so they match your frequency, and reintegrate them. This way they fill the empty spaces that were created when you cast them off. And with higher vibrations guiding your field, you can magnetize new opportunities and experiences to you.

With soul retrieval work, you become more whole and complete: you may see new spiritual gifts unfold; emotions that were once frozen may come back online; feelings and memories may fill your heart once again that you can recall; and wisdom culled from past experiences is accessible once again.

In some cases, you can even resolve issues that were once perplexing because energy that was missing (emotions, experiences, etc.) is available now. I've actually had this experience when I've tried to clear something on myself. With soul retrieval I was able to complete the clearing.

I've found that those who have never done energy optimization work often have the greatest number of aspects to call back. For instance, for a handful of folks I've integrated over 1,000 aspects per person. For the first time, perhaps ever, they are more of their full self than ever before.

How to release what's not yours

Again, it's wonderful to share from the depths of your heart the love you have for yourself, your beloved, and loved ones in your life. Just don't give your heart away. Or pieces of it. You want your energy to be yours. Whole and complete. And your loved one's energy to be theirs, whole and complete.

To release heart energy that's not yours, I've outlined several simple steps below. I'd love to hear about your experiences with this exercise. If you have a minute once you complete it, feel free to share your insights in the comment section.

a) Find a comfy chair. Sit back and breathe deeply. Exhale several times. Place your hand on your heart and say Center. Then Detach.

b) To release all heart pieces that belong to someone else

Say: I release all heart pieces that belong to X (name a person). Do this for each person who gave you their heart. Think of people you may have married, divorced, dated, worked with, who are family, e.g. your mother, father, grandparents, etc. Let the names come to you. Your heart essence will help with this. At close for each person say: Detach.

c) To reclaim heart pieces that belong to you

Say: I want to reclaim and reintegrate all of the heart pieces I gave away. Clear all and return them to me at the highest frequency. Now. Make it so! It is so! Watch, feel, listen for the command to be completed. You will notice a difference in your energy either immediately or over time.

d) To close, say: Detach all.

Then say: Center. Clear, balance, align, harmonize, integrate, recalibrate, attune, attenuate all of me now. Set coherence.

That's it. You're done!

Thanks for reading this! Interested in energy optimization work? I'd love to chat. Or you can book a session, tune-up or workshop directly on my website. Thanks for reading! Have a wonderful day.

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