Looking for The Beauty and Goodness in Everyone

In today's world, we move so fast, we don't seem to take the time to see each other anymore. We barely look at faces. Their eyes. The smiles. Never mind taking in the spiritual force that surrounds and defines one's entire beingness.

When I meet someone, I can't help but look at their total beingness. I want to look for the beauty and goodness in them, and innerstand what makes them, them. I'm interested in learning who they are, and what makes them special. Since there's only one of you and me in this world, and the odds of creating each of us were one in a billion, I try to honor each soul by helping them feel seen, valued, and heard.

When we connect in this special way, and it only takes one of us to do so, we engage on a level beyond words. Spirit to spirit. You may have heard some say the phrase "I see you." That's what this means.

When we observe, acknowledge, and appreciate someone's life, it doesn't happen with a quick glance to the eyes. It comes from looking into their eyes and holding eye contact, noticing their appearance, and by seeking to know them. Then something magical happens -- the energy shifts between us and doors open at a deep level to recognition, innerstanding, and compassion.

What you see matters

Yes, how you look at someone and what you look for matters. To you, and to them. How you approach someone is a reflection of your own level of self-awareness, trust, and self-love. Whether you approach someone with open mind or judgement, determines how they interact with you. For example, a conversation might remain superficial or trust is gained and you go snorkeling together, exploring the intimate depths of one another's lives.

Without truly seeing someone, we can't fully appreciate and innerstand one another. Who we are. Why we are here. The unique soul purpose and expression. Every one of us has a reason for being here. And a journey only we can undertake.

Perhaps, you have soul friends that make you feel so alive, you'd do anything for them. It's because they see you. And you see them. Imagine what would happen if we looked at each other with open eyes, hearts, and minds? At work? At home? In your neighborhood? The world would be a very different place.

What it feels like to be seen

Several months ago, I cut my hair. It was pretty significant. I wasn't fishing for compliments, but after having six inches being lopped off, I thought someone would notice. No one did. Because of that I began to wonder what people actually look at when they look at me, and at each other.

Then one day a neighbor of mine, who will soon be 85, stopped to chat and looked at me. All of a sudden his eyes lit up, and his face smiled broadly, and he commented on my hair. Pleasantly surprised, I told him he was the first to notice. Quietly the air began buzzing, and the energy shifted between us, and every moment from there on, our connection was infused with sweetness, joy, and smiles.

It's amazing how we can feel when we're finally seen: the invisible cloak lifts and our true self comes out to play. It's like the light switch flipped, and we both saw each other so clearly.

I tend to see everything that comprises a person's beingness, and I comment on the beauty and goodness I see in those I know and don't know. I do this because I want to leave people feeling cared for, even in the smallest of ways. Something truthful to remember that lightens their day. That makes them shift from being on "automatic" to being "present" to receive the compliment. And I'm never disappointed with the reactions my comments inspire.

I also recognize that there are people who are deeply wounded in our world. They may have hardened from a difficult life, and it can be challenging at times to find goodness and beauty in them. But I still comment on something positive I can see.

I've learned over the years, that people can't give what they have never had nor received. But if I leave something positive behind, when the moment is right, it will reach them. And I'd rather do that than say nothing. Depending upon the individual, we may be the only one who sees their goodness, simply because we looked for it.

Key learnings

It was a revelation to learn that many people don't "see" the way I do. When I connected with several friends and acquaintances for this blog, they said they prefer not to look at people when they connect with them. For some, it came down to vulnerability issues due to age, health, and other concerns. Yet, for others, seeing wasn't important to them. They connect through conversing and move on.

I understand this, but I'm suggesting that in an age of epidemic loneliness, we take the time to engage with each other to really see, honor, and connect in meaningful and satisfying ways. So we don't miss out on the amazing gifts staring back at us.

What we choose to see matters

Unfortunately, when we don't see someone, we miss out on bearing witness to and acknowledging that person's gifts, specialness, and life experiences. And the wonder and joy they can bring to our lives.

It seems small, but it's the little things in life that make a difference. That we remember. The kind words. The compassionate heart. The thoughtful look on someone's face. Their smiling eyes.

When we look for the goodness and beauty that exists in people, we find it. The search becomes a self-fulfilling prophesy because like always attracts like. The choice is yours.

An invitation to connect without words

If you wish to see and connect beyond words when you meet someone, look into their eyes and wait for a point of connection. Could be a smile, a nod, a shake of the head, a laugh. Then pull your vision back and look at their appearance for beauty and goodness, the way they speak, laugh, their body language. All of this takes but moments to do.

From there, shift your vision to the entire soul (external) of the person...it's an oval shape and it's several feet out from their body. Look for it. If you can't see it, don't worry. Keep looking into their eyes. Feel their energy. The connection. Don't think. Continue to listen, smile, and engage with their energy and the conversation. Notice how the energy shifts: you'll feel a lightness in your heart. Joy and excitement bubble up. That's when the most precious gifts are given and received.

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